“A prenup is for people who can’t or won’t commit.”
“It’s like rooting against your own marriage.”
When hearing the mention of the word prenup, most people express serious reservations about getting one.
While it’s true not everyone needs a prenup; there are important benefits–financial and otherwise–to signing a prenup before marriage.
Once you have a better understanding of what prenups actually do and who they benefit, you can determine if one is right for you.
What Does a Prenup Do?
A prenup, or a prenuptial agreement, is an agreement a couple creates before saying their I do’s, to detail what their money situation would look like in the event of a divorce.
In the agreement, the couple describes whatever property they own separately before the marriage, as well as any debts.
It’s important to note this isn’t just about dollars and cents in savings, investments, and retirement accounts. This also includes homes and any other real estate an individual might already own. As well as family businesses and other assets.
Prenups can also be helpful if the couple has children from other marriages or relationships.
A prenup can outline how to pass down property to the children in the event of the partner’s death. However, prenups cannot determine anything about the custodial arrangements of any children or other personal preferences.
Prenups generally focus on assets and debts. However, they may also include lifestyle clauses, goodwill clauses, and even social media clauses.
While a prenup cannot assign custody of children, it can outline things such as:
- who gets the family pet
- what happens in the case of a cheating spouse
- what either party cannot divulge, discuss, or display about the other, through these clauses
Who Does a Prenup Benefit?
Prenups are beneficial to many couples, especially if you are entering the union with a considerable amount of assets or debts. But they are not just for the rich.
Without a prenup, a married couple has to follow the law for married property rights. This impacts two significant aspects of your financial life:
- Property. Any property you acquire during the marriage is considered shared property. That means your spouse can expect to split the property in the event of a divorce. The property will be split differently depending on where you live: either 50/50 in a community property state or equitably in an equitable distribution state.
- Debt. Any debt your spouse acquires during your marriage may also become your debt.
For many years, it was commonly held that prenups were only for marriages when one party significantly out-earned the other party and was bringing considerably more assets to the union.
Now, though, prenups are becoming more commonplace.
As they become more common, people are starting to realize most partnerships can benefit from a prenuptial agreement because it helps each partner take a financial inventory.
Consequently, they can give a couple a clearer picture of where they stand financially in the present and what they hope to achieve together as a couple.
Prenups are also on the rise with younger generations.
Experts speculate this is because millennials have more student loan debt than previous generations. Additionally, they are marrying later in general which means more of them have acquired assets prior to tying the knot.
Are There Any Exceptions to Prenups?
While a prenup is an agreement, it is important to note the legal system does not always look favorably on prenups.
In a change from the past, prenups are now valid throughout the United States. However, if a judge determines the language in a prenup is frivolous, unfair, or fails to meet the requirements for your specific state, they will likely disregard it during divorce proceedings.
How do I Get a Prenup?
Though you and your partner can talk through many aspects of a prenup yourself, you will both want to work with separate lawyers at the beginning and throughout the prenup process.
When drafting the agreement, you and your partner will disclose your current finances. Some couples also prefer to work with a forensic accountant to help with this aspect.
Unlike lawyers where each party should hire his or her own lawyer to avoid a conflict of interest, one accountant should suffice to help gather a complete financial picture.
Then, you and your partner will define what is individual property and debt. And what will become marital property and marital liability. Your lawyers will help you provide thorough descriptions of each debt and asset. They will also help you understand state laws.
Another benefit of working with legal professionals is that they will have a sense of how courts in your state typically respond to prenups and will know what language to include and avoid.
Your prenuptial agreement may also detail how to split the marital residence in the event of a divorce and how you would like to approach spousal support.
Some couples also use prenups to specify the management of finances and how they will allocate any property throughout a marriage.
You can also determine the length of a prenuptial agreement and how elements may phase in or out depending on the duration of the marriage.
Finally, once the agreement is complete, you will want to ensure both parties find the terms satisfactory and that you both still wish to move forward with the agreement.
If that’s the case, then the next step is to sign and date the document. Some states also require you to have witnesses during the signing process. After signing, you will take the agreement to a public notary for notarization.
Once the prenuptial agreement is complete, you will want to make sure each party keeps a separate copy. Storing a third copy in a shared location or with an outside party is also recommended.
Is it Too Late for a Me?
If you are already married, and you realize a prenup would have benefitted you and your spouse, don’t fret.
Postnups, or postnuptial agreements, can fulfill a similar role. Essentially, it is an agreement between a married couple regarding how their assets should be divided if their marriage ends.
Postnups can also indicate whether spousal support is appropriate. If the couple does agree to spousal support, the postnup may also include the amount one spouse will pay the other.
It is worth noting that prenups have advantages of postnups.
One advantage of a prenup being, if the two parties cannot get on the same page financially, they can part ways without having to dissolve their marriage.
A postnup is the result of the end of a marriage, which was not just a romantic gesture but also comes with a fiduciary duty as well.
As previously discussed, some judges are still skeptical of prenups. They tend to look even harder at postnuptial agreements because they may feel that since the couple was already married, one partner thought he or she had no choice but to agree to the document.
Still, if you are a married couple who was unaware of a prenup or simply did not feel comfortable having the discussion prior to your marriage, a postnup can be beneficial.
To make the process smoother, you also want to make sure both parties have adequate time to review and understand the agreement.
This is best done by having both spouses work with separate lawyers. In doing so, it is more likely the postnuptial agreement holds up in court if there is ever a need.
Additional Reading: What Happens If I Die Without Creating A Will?
Final Thoughts on Obtaining a Prenup
No one likes to think their own marriage might end. However, with nearly half of all unions in the United States ending in separation, it is worth considering what the financial consequences of a divorce would be.
Don’t DIY it. Prenups drawn up without attorney’s representing each side have less chance of holding up in court. If you feel a prenup is necessary, then this is not the time to be cheap and forego hiring adequate legal counsel.
In an ideal world, a prenuptial agreement isn’t just a matter of protecting your assets; it’s the starting point in a marriage for getting two partners working on the same page as they build their lives and financial house together.
Article written by Penny